By Dear Straight People,
Hollywood celebrities aren’t the only ones who get their nudes splashed all over the internet.
Every now and then, some unsuspecting soul from the gay scene will find their naked self plastered all over Tumblr sites. And it’s become so common that gay people have more or less resigned themselves to the fact that this issue is just part and parcel of life in the gay scene.
But the optimist in me has a bit more faith than most in the gay community. I believe that ignorance is the root of the problem. And the reason why this problem continues to be an issue is because most people aren’t aware that something as innocuous as uploading a picture or video online can have very real repercussions for the people involved.
So we decided to shine the spotlight on this issue by speaking to Lokies Khan, who recently suffered a tremendous breach of privacy when gifs of him engaging in sexual activities surfaced online.
We hope that after watching the video below, the gay community will choose to stop spreading negativity. And should they ever find themselves in possession of someone else’s intimate pictures/videos, they would stop and think about how their actions affect others.
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Filmed and edited by Kieran C
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Stay strong Lokies… You are stronger then that. Like you stay we need to respect that privacy. I was invaded last week with people trying to jeopardize my relationship and tarnish my name. But I fought it!
Glad that Lokies was able to inspire you =)
First of all, if you made a sex video, chances are, it will get leaked. If you don’t want it being leaked, don’t make one in the first place.
Slut shaming is NOT unique to the gay community. And it’s “pot calling the kettle black”, you say? Are you insinuating gays are sluts now? Don’t drag all the gays down to your level, girl. At least most of them are not dumb enough to make a sex video and get caught.
If you’re trying to garner sympathy with this video, it’s definitely not working.
Hello Stewie, thank you for taking time out to express your opinion. Let’s be clear on one thing first, I didn’t do this video to gain sympathy. I didn’t once asked for any sort of sympathy in the video, if you haven’t noticed. I’d like to believe I was accounting for my own actions.
Secondly, by calling slut shaming a ‘pot calling the black’ issue in the community, I wasn’t insinuating everyone is a slut. But it’s rather, a ‘let him who is without sin cast the first stone’ situation. People who slut shame other gays in the community makes it seem as if, having sex should be heavily frowned upon, when let’s be honest, everyone enjoys sex. Just because someone is more upfront about it, he or she, gets called a slut?
Lastly, I don’t think you seem to understand what the true issue I was trying to address in the video. Sure enough, I might have shot myself in the foot for making a video in the first place, but just because you don’t want to get fat, does that mean you should stop eating completely? Just because you don’t want to be judged for being gay, does that mean you just choose to be straight the next second?
I didn’t ask for this. And the issue here was, somebody took what was meant to be private and intimate, and abused it. I’m not the only person in this world who takes nudes. But having it leaked by somebody else other than yourself without your knowledge, is absolute violation.
Hello Lokies. If I may inquire, were you aware of being filmed during the act(s)? If it was consensual, the responsibility would be upon the person(s) who filmed the act(s) since they ought to have guarded their device & its contents more securely.
Unless they themselves spread it online. Then that’s a major breach of trust. And referring to Stewie, I think any sane, rational adult would be sufficiently aware of the risks involved (again unless it was filmed without permission) No need to be a sanctimonious prick about things now. And it’s amusing how you say most of them don’t do such things. I take it you’ve attended every session of gay sex, to be able to make this point?
I’m not judging nor condemning. That’d be the height of hypocrisy. But I’m looking at it from a legalistic perspective, and am curious to see how that angle will work out eventually.
All the best Lokies. You seem like a strong person. Take care.
It’s kind of hard to feel any sympathy when your Instagram is filled with pics of you nearly naked or your bulge showing in underwear for modeling. That’s where you draw the line? People have seen everything else so what does it honestly matter. And what slut shaming? I’m sure the only reason for anyone to see those gifs is to get off and move on. Not look you up and vandalize your property or put you down.
Don’t make a video if you don’t want it put out there. All this makes me see is attention to further your career or social media platforms. But I’m sure this is just me slut shaming instead of calling out hypocrisy. Honestly have sex as much as you want and I wouldn’t care, but shame is internal and if you let it bother you it will.
Hi Tyler, the issue here is about people breaching trust and leaking what was meant to be something private and intimate online without consent.
What you’re doing here is essentially victim blaming and the logic which you’ve applied is incredibly toxic. Going by your train of thought, all rape victims who wear revealing clothes should be blamed because ‘people have seen everything else so what does it matter’.
We were the ones who approached Lokies to speak out on the issue, not the other way around. So we can assure you it was not some kind of publicity stunt masterminded by Lokies.
P.S Taking topless selfies and a clear breach of privacy are two completely different unrelated matters. Lokies addressed it very clearly in the video, perhaps you should watch it again.
Hello there, Tyler. Thank you for taking your time out to express your opinion. I hope in the midst of expression, you also had the chance to read what I had replied to Stewie, who shares similar views to yours.
Telling me people have almost seen everything of me on my Instagram, thus no surprises here, is like asking a professional porn actor that he or she should not be wearing clothes when they are out living their normal lives. Just because I show skin, doesn’t mean I shouldn’t deserve privacy where it should count.
Telling me I’m doing this for a cheap shot at publicity, is like telling someone he chose to be gay. Choosing a ‘lifestyle’ that comes with different form of hardships, and if you’re lucky and strong enough, you will be able to survive through it. I live a pretty average life, and I have no qualms with it. Because putting oneself on a pedestal and dealing with the expected negative repercussions is certainly, a great way to become (in)famous and a great addition to anybody’s track record, right?
Don’t be misunderstood, I will still have as much sex as I want, but you could be right — that people don’t really care as much as I did. But just because it isn’t wrong to you, doesn’t make it anymore right.
On that note, I do appreciate your advice that shame is only there if I let it bother me. It’s something I am still working on, and I let it get to me subconsciously once in awhile.
The question is (maybe I missed it) is how did this video get leaked in the first place? Whose hands where they in? Yours? The guy you had sex with in the video? Did you share it with people? Did someone get on your device and steal the video? Did you upload it somewhere? If this video was only intended for you and someone went on your device and stole it, then by all means…I have sympathy for you. But if this video was shared or leaked by you, then it’s all your fault.Please clarify for all.
Hi Judah, Lokies made it quite clear he wasn’t the person who leaked the video.
hi lokies u hv my empathy. can u cum in yr underwear n let me smell? act as a corpse to satisfy my necrophilia.
Guys. Read the comment section of the video…. He leaked his own nudes…. willingly…. over gay dating apps with strangers and they are backed by obvious evidences… Hes wasting our time. Hes just craving attention….