Dear Closeted Indians,
Regardless of how deep in the closet you currently are, the question of whether to come out or not has probably weighed on your minds before.
To help you in your dilemma, here is a compilation of advice on coming out from 4 openly LGBT Indians in Singapore who came out and lived to tell the tale.
1. Patricia (Lesbian)
It took me 2 years to come out to tell my family and friends.
During those 2 years, I was so afraid of being rejected and being criticised due to the Indian mentality. But I decided to be brave and come out to the world.
A lot of my friends have left me but I now have more friends who love me more than I could ever love myself. That joy is priceless.You will definitely learn to take the negative comments in your stride. Thats what I did. Because it’s gonna be me who needs to feel happy.
Come out and see how REAL people will love you endlessly!♡
2. Gabriel Mark (Gay)
I’ve always felt like you don’t really have to “come out” to anyone. Everybody else will be ready when you are. The day you feel comfortable being yourself is the day everything feels carefree.
3. Sham (Trans Man)
Many Indians are still living in fear. Fear of society, Fear of family and friends. Fear of how others will judge them. But they need to understand that these people aren’t gonna be there forever. This is your battle. You have to fight for it.
I’ve heard many Indians say that they can’t come out to their family because they will get chased out. Or that they can’t come out because society will judge them. If you are only think for others and stay closeted, who’s gonna think for you?
So choose what’s best for you.
4. Bhas Karan (Gay)
The Indian community is not that small in Singapore. There won’t be a chance where my mother would know your mother. There is no need to hide when you see me or any other Indian gay men for that matter.
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