Confession: I Am Straight… But I Regularly Have Sex With Other Men


Dear Straight People,

Although I frequently have sex with other men, I would consider myself straight. Before the rainbow flag waving gay activists start denouncing me as a closeted gay man who is in denial, please hear me out first before you jump to that superficial conclusion.

First and foremost, I’m a 26-year old man who really likes women. I’ve had 3 ex-girlfriends before, all of whom I’ve been incredibly physically and emotionally attracted to. But as much as I enjoy the company of the opposite sex, I also don’t mind getting off with other men.

My First Gay Experience

The first time I ever had sex with another guy was when I was 15.

I went to an all-boys secondary school and as you can imagine, we were all perpetually horny. My clique and I used to watch porn together after school. We would head to *Alex’s house and 4 or 5 of us would crowd around the computer to watch porn together.

Looking back, it was pretty lame. We never jerked off or anything. We would just crowd around the computer and pass comments while the porn was playing. There was nothing homosexual about the experience. It was very much like a bunch of dudes watching soccer together.


But one time after school, it was just Alex and me chilling at his place. We got bored with doing homework and I suggested we watch some porn instead as a break. While the porn was playing, Alex started rubbing his erection through his pants which was something none of us ever did before. I was slightly surprised but I didn’t make much of a fuss and I too started rubbing my hard-on.

I got so horny I decided to just take out my erection from my pants and I started masturbating in the open. That definitely caught Alex’s attention and while he had this incredibly shocked expression on his face at first, he didn’t say anything and after a while, he too started wanking in the open. I’m not sure what made me do it but I was the one who suggested we jerk each other off. One thing led to another and soon, we were 69-ing each other.

It was an incredibly surreal experience but neither of us talked about it or did anything remotely sexual with one another after that. It was a one-time experience and that was that.

Having Sex With Other Men


It wasn’t until 7 years later that I had my next homosexual experience.

I had just gotten out of a relationship with my second ex-girlfriend. We were together for almost a year and during that period, we had loads of sex. At least once a week. When the relationship ended, I suddenly had no one to relieve me of my sexual desires anymore.

I was going through a 4-month long dry spell when it just randomly hit me to get off with another man to cure my blue balls. I downloaded Grindr and before I knew it, this random gay stranger was blowing me at his house.

I was amazed at how easy it was for gay men to get laid so every time I got horny, I would hook up with someone on Grindr. Over time, I started experimenting with anal sex as well (I always topped) but most of the time, I mostly preferred to be at the receiving end of a blowjob.

Having Gay Sex Doesn’t Define Me


I would be lying if I said I’ve never questioned my sexuality before. But after a lot of self-reflection, I identify myself as a heterosexual man.

The main reason why I don’t consider myself gay or bi is because I have zero emotional attraction to other men. I’ve never had a crush on another dude before. Nor have I ever even developed the slightest bit of romantic feelings for another guy.

In terms of physical attraction to other men, I’m pretty limited in that area too. I don’t check out other guys. And even if I find a dude really good-looking, I don’t start drooling over him. I will just think to myself ‘This guy is handsome‘ and that’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less.

As to why I have sex with other men, the reason is simple. It’s a lot easier to get laid with men than it is to score with women. With women, you have to wine and dine them. With men, it’s a lot more convenient. And that’s all there is to it. Convenience.

I Am Not A Closet Homophobe

The reason why I decided to pen down this confession is because I recently read the enlightening views of Indulekshmi Rajeswari. In her coming out story, she writes:

The modern understanding is actually that sexuality falls on to more of a three-dimensional graph, with axes of physical attraction, emotional attraction and gender.

It is possible to have a complicated sexuality in which you may be attracted physically to one gender but not emotionally, or vice versa.

I could never really articulate my reasoning into words. But Indu’s views completely captures how I feel about sexuality. Having gay sex doesn’t make one gay. Just like how cooking doesn’t make one a chef.

For a community who often demands that other people respect their sexuality, it’s very ironic that they are unable to do the same. Whenever I tell my gay sex buddies I am straight, they always smirk and talk as if they know me better than I know myself.

I am in no way a homophobe nor do I have any issues with my sexuality. Yes, there are some men who are so closeted they are unable to acknowledge their homosexuality. But I’m not one of them. I’m not in any way religious and I would totally be fine with myself if I was indeed gay or bi.

But the thing is that I am straight and gay people need to start respecting that. I’m pretty sick of gay men assuming that having sex with other men automatically makes them gay or bi.

Having gay sex doesn’t define my sexuality.


*Names have been changed.

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  1. Fuck the category’s. Gender and sexually is what we make it. It’s all because of this heteronormative world. But thank got it is changing. Nice and important story to tell! 👍

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  2. It’s okay to be Bi too…
    It’s okay to flux along the spectrum…?

    Why so fussed about a “gay” or “bi” label, if labels don’t apply…?

    Like, “I write with my left hand sometimes but DO NOT CALL ME AMBIDEXTROUS I’M RIGHT HANDED 😑☝️”. Does it matter either way?

    Interesting piece, hope this guy is okay in the long run though, seems a few unresolved issues there.

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  3. I am straight, and wnjoy receiving anal thanks to enjoying pegging and cuckolding play since my high school GF. She loved sex, and she loved making several guys get off together. I didnt mind it frankly turned me on. I actually prefer sloppy seconds with a woman. I also enjoyed kissing and going down on her after our daily gangbang. She was on BC, and all the guys only olayed wirh her. She soon started snowballing me with their cum, i enjoyed the taste of it. She soon made me blow them, and started using toys on my butt shortly after. I enjoyed it. She kept using larger and larger toys, then actual penis shaped ones, which felt amazing. Then the daily sex turned into her pegging me, while i blew a guy, and she blew one, and one was doing her. Eventually she had one guy do me, and omg it was amazing. I ejaculated with my penis as flacid as it ever had been, and it was never touched. I was having a full body orgasm. So then her and i would be getting penetrated and blowing together. And once they all orgasmed 2 or 3 times, her and i would do it.

    Funny part, 0 atteaction to men. But i do need to take a dick very regularly.

    I also have dated a TS lady who did porn and was an escort. She was HUNG. Other women i have dated prior to the TS would peg me and fist me a couple times a week. I love big rhings going in and out of my booty hard and fast.

    The TS and her boyfriend, equally well hung, used me as a submissive sex slave. They worked me up to extreme penetration, and would DP me nightly once we stopped using condoms after sts tests came back all clear.

    Also before the TS, in the military, my roommate, saw my tabboo porn, and almost forced himself on me, but i get totally in the mood when a guy basically whips it out and pulls my head to his package, or pushes me over the arm of a couch and pulls my pants down. I dont like men touching my penis, and i prefer to orgasm only from anal with guys. TS ladies, i love because i am ok with everything, loved kissing the TS.

    For now, i have a monthly 3 hour visit with two awesome perfect TS gals, and have been for several years. All tested std free, and they cum inside me, many times each time. Also working on finding a guy to dominate and use me for his sexual desires. I will go to those TS escorts monthly, heck would love to date and marry either one, and even help them fulfil some clients fetishes and kinks. I have already gotten freebies with them when another of their regular guys wanted to dominate a man. Did that for free, and yeah.

    I will say, while time with the TS ladies is very fulfilling, there is something about having a hung strong horny guy and the way they fuck my ass, and the total domination aspect. Sure i do turn into quite the nympho and with my roomie would initiate just as often after a few weeks, and i also pride myself on being able to please a man sexually, even when i have no attraction towards men, and despise kissinf or having my penis touched by men. I rather enjoy being sexually degraded, emasculated, humiliated, and treated like i am a total slutty whore who does any and everything a dominantan wants. I will admit, i like being groped, grabbed, when a guy pulls his dick out and waves it at me, all that sort of stuff turns me on, and makes me want to suck them then get pounded hard and fast. I also have been lucky enough to enjoy mostly large cocks.

    I so need to have a man who wants to pound my ass twice a day 5 days a week. Even better would be two guys who are hung, masculine, and safe and disease free, who wanted to DP me daily.

    I also love being watched, photographed, and recorded when i am taking a dick, but unless a woman had a few loads pumped into her, and i am going down and cleaning up a bit before sliding jnto her worn out ultra slick hole, that i only stay hard because i can feel the cum and look forward to her cleaning it off and snowballing, so then a guy uses my ass, i could care less. I do want to be gangbanged and have that recorded. I enjoy being treated like a sexual object, and wish i could literally do nothing all day but pleasure 8 TS ladies, and half a dozen men, all hung and with high sex drives, because i once had my roomie and two of his friends run a train on me for over 8 hours and even when i took a short break to drik water, i still was being used, just slower, and i wanted more. I also would love to volunteer to do some hardcore gangbangs with as many 9+” hung TS ladies who are std free, and get pumped full by them as many times as each TS could do. I would love to be that guy, who had nearly 200 or more TS ladies gangbang and creampie him, some going multiple times. A nice thick penis shooting a decent load or more balls deep and i ejaculate instantly. Same with two such penises DPing me. Had the 2 TS ladies cum at the same time… omg i want that all day every day now cant wait till next thursday, when my two TS ladies and i are having 6 hours together, and one of their regulars wanted to gang up on a guy, so for 2 hours will have that, then gonna meet up with a guy, still filled with all the cum from being ganged by 3, and let him fuck my already very well and heavily used jizzed up ass. Cant wait to suck his cock after he fucks me. I always suck a cock after it is in my ass


  4. I am a gay man I don’t get turned on by women but I do have the mind set that sex is sex and if I guy is sucking your knob you will get hard and enjoy it . However we all have this social block in our heads saying it’s wrong and disgusting if you can over come that you will enjoy sex more


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